The Truth About Perfectionism
In our society, there is a prevailing value placed on things that exhibit perfection. While some elements can achieve a semblance of perfection – like an architect's perfectly straight line, a mathematician's flawlessly solved equation, or a decadently moist chocolate cake – as human beings, reaching a state of perfection remains unattainable. I often share with my clients that we are all beautiful works in progress.
Understanding Perfectionism
Perfectionism is commonly perceived as a positive trait, with the belief that the more "perfect" one is, the greater their success in life. However, perfectionism differs from consistently giving one's best. Striving for excellence is commendable, fostering healthy achievements and growth. Perfectionism, on the other hand, takes this pursuit to an extreme.
Individuals grappling with perfectionist tendencies often harbor self-defeating thoughts and behaviors, hindering their goal attainment. This mindset contributes to heightened stress, anxiety, and even depression. Perfect becomes the lowest standard, given its unattainability.
Recognizing Perfectionist Traits
While occasional attempts at perfectionism are normal, some individuals adopt a full-time perfectionist approach in all aspects of their lives.
Here are signs that you may be a perfectionist:
Reluctance to engage in tasks unless they can be executed perfectly.
Overemphasis on the outcome, with minimal focus on the creative or learning process.
Task completion is only acknowledged if it meets perfectionist standards.
Procrastination due to the avoidance of starting a task unless perfection is assured.
Prolonged task completion duration compared to others, posing challenges at work.
Seeking Assistance
Perfectionism is distinct from striving to do one's best. It's a condition where individuals struggle to find joy or pride in their accomplishments, deeming themselves perpetually inadequate. If you suspect perfectionist traits causing stress, there are avenues for behavioral change to foster a healthier and happier life, our life coaching might be “perfect” for you.
For those interested in exploring treatment options, reach out to us at Bozeman Counseling Center. We're here to assist you in making positive changes in your life!